Mother of the Groom
As The Mother of the Groom you may be unsure what role you plays in the marriage of your son, and if this is the first wedding that you have been involved with, it can be even more confusing.
Etiquette is less important today than it used to be, however many of the “rules” of etiquette were originally established to make sure that the Wedding Day went smoothly.
The duties of the Mother of the Groom on the actual wedding day will vary according to how formal the wedding is and whether it is a church or civil wedding,
However the following three guidelines will go a long way to making the both the Mother of the Bride and the Mother of the Groom as stress free as possible.
Traditionally the first responsibility of the Mother of the Groom is to contact the Bride’s parents and introduce yourself. The two families will be involved in the Wedding to a greater or lesser extent, so the sooner that you get to know each other the better.
Of course there are many different scenarios; the families may already know each other, you may live close to each other or you may be total strangers and live many miles apart. The initial contact will probably be by telephone to say how happy you are about the Wedding. Depending on circumstances, the next step may be an invite to your house, going out for a meal or, if distance is a problem, writing a letter and maybe sending a photograph of your son when he was a child. Email and text are obviously very convenient; however they may not be appropriate to the situation.
The second most important responsibility is to provide the Bride’s parents with a list of guests including addresses. This list needs to stick to the number of guests that has been decided, and needs to be provided by the date requested so that invitations can be sent out in time to give guests plenty of notice.
The third responsibility for the Mother of the Groom is to liaise with the Mother of the Bride regarding her outfit for the Special Occasion. Traditionally the Mother of The Bride will choose her outfit first, and The Mother of the Groom will choose an outfit of a complimentary colour and style and of a similar length. Although this rule is less strictly observed than it used to be, you need to bear in mind how the wedding photographs will look if the Groom’s and Bride’s mothers outfits clash.
These simple guidelines will help to ensure that both The Mother of the Groom and the Mother of the Bride have as little stress as possible during the preparations for the Wedding and on the Day itself.
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